I have been thinking of this post for a while. There has been a lot of talk in the blogging community about how blogs can give the impression of ‘perfect’ lives. The truth is that this blogging world is beautiful and inspiring and I entered it to inspire myself and, in the process, all those who read this. I blog to choose joy even when its hard to find it, in the most ordinary of moments. I blog not to show how ‘perfect’ my life is, but to try to look for the good over the bad, the happy over the sad, and to make the most of this time in my life.
BUT it IS selective sharing. I mostly share the good and the beautiful, because who wants to see a dirty house honestly! Or who wants to read negative/depressing thoughts! It is just like photography is for me. When I take pictures of my daughter, when I take pictures of our life right now, I tend to focus on the beautiful, the positive. And maybe years later they will cloud our memories and we’ll think it was all good:). That being said, I never want to overwhelm the ones who come to read this little blog.
I realize that my pictures/posts might show you an inspired mom, a happy toddler and a clean house, but just like those moments, there are more than a few of the out of control mom-cranky toddler-dirty house type. When nothing’s going right, we're grumpy, and by the end of the day dying for the mister to get home so we can take a break from each other!
The truth is that just like most people out there, I find it hard to manage my time and activities better. I too get angry, I lose my patience, I spend more time online than I should. Just like other babies, my daughter cries (A LOT), fusses and keeps me on my toes. My house is also most days far from its best. In short, just like every household, there are many not so beautiful moments behind the scenes.
As you follow this blog, try not to judge yourself or me, for that matter. Neither is my life in order all the time, and neither is there any pressure for yours to be. Sometimes we have a tendency to be harder on ourselves than anybody else. We look around and we think how much better others are managing their lives and put ourselves down. I'm pretty sure you're doing the best you know how to. We all are different, and we all deal with things our own way. Luckily, this is no competition, and we are most probably the only ones judging here:)
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I choose to look at the happy over the not-so-happy every single day. Because isn't that what life is really about? We all have our challenges, we all have our problems, we all have parts of our lives that are just out of our control but what matters is what we focus on at the end. So next time when you get the feeling how 'perfect' things are around here, remember that most probably they are not. I just choose to remember it that way:)
Thank you so much for all the love you guys are giving me!
Thanks for stopping by!
PS: Maybe someday I should do a messy house post;)