Friday, October 12, 2012

Ramblings: The perfectly imperfect life

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I have been thinking of this post for a while. There has been a lot of talk in the blogging community about how blogs can give the impression of ‘perfect’ lives. The truth is that this blogging world is beautiful and inspiring and I entered it to inspire myself and, in the process, all those who read this. I blog to choose joy even when its hard to find it, in the most ordinary of moments. I blog not to show how ‘perfect’ my life is, but to try to look for the good over the bad, the happy over the sad, and to make the most of this time in my life.

BUT it IS selective sharing. I mostly share the good and the beautiful, because who wants to see a dirty house honestly! Or who wants to read negative/depressing thoughts! It is just like photography is for me. When I take pictures of my daughter, when I take pictures of our life right now, I tend to focus on the beautiful, the positive. And maybe years later they will cloud our memories and we’ll think it was all good:). That being said, I never want to overwhelm the ones who come to read this little blog.

I realize that my pictures/posts might show you an inspired mom, a happy toddler and a clean house, but just like those moments, there are more than a few of the out of control mom-cranky toddler-dirty house type. When nothing’s going right, we're grumpy, and by the end of the day dying for the mister to get home so we can take a break from each other!

The truth is that just like most people out there, I find it hard to manage my time and activities better. I too get angry, I lose my patience, I spend more time online than I should. Just like other babies, my daughter cries (A LOT), fusses and keeps me on my toes. My house is also most days far from its best. In short, just like every household, there are many not so beautiful moments behind the scenes.

As you follow this blog, try not to judge yourself or me, for that matter. Neither is my life in order all the time, and neither is there any pressure for yours to be. Sometimes we have a tendency to be harder on ourselves than anybody else. We look around and we think how much better others are managing their lives and put ourselves down. I'm pretty sure you're doing the best you know how to. We all are different, and we all deal with things our own way. Luckily, this is no competition, and we are most probably the only ones judging here:)

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I choose to look at the happy over the not-so-happy every single day. Because isn't that what life is really about? We all have our challenges, we all have our problems, we all have parts of our lives that are just out of our control but what matters is what we focus on at the end. So next time when you get the feeling how 'perfect' things are around here, remember that most probably they are not. I just choose to remember it that way:)

Thank you so much for all the love you guys are giving me!

Thanks for stopping by!

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PS: Maybe someday I should do a messy house post;)

15 comments:

  1. Loved the words you wrote as because nothing's so beautiful as the person is who makes it worth it. :) I mean to say, decorating and cleaning and mopping up the house is just a work like eating chips on the sofa type thing you know =) But besides you're always indulged in other activities but I am not denying that your home is beautiful. But you should be given an award type something that life in a foreign country and then putting first things first and blogging, besides doing creative art, I mean to say that these things all that you do: not everyone can do all of them, are one of those million women who carry up things on their only two shoulders, and I really wanna be a woman like that when my time comes. :) so chill!

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    1. Najia sweets, you are too kind girl and very good for the ego :) hehe, xoxo!

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    2. Nataliya, you know what? I really love you because you are always nice to people and that's the way a person should be in front of the world and at the back as well :) I hope my comments never hurt you because as it is said to comment, I follow. Take care of your house and yourself too and hugs to aniyyaaa <3

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    3. Najia you are a sweetheart. How can your comments hurt me. You take care of yourself too. Will pass on your hugs! xoxo

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    4. :)) I wish to have a sister like you nataliya, love.

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  2. hehe very true :)

    Blogs and our posts are just one part of life and not the whole picture, which suits itself actually :)

    I'm all eyes for dirty house pics too ;)

    Stay beautiful!

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    1. haha Asma, okay i should work start working on that too then! GOod to hear from you. Hope all's well!

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  3. thanks for sharing this, we all have our moments and definitely nothing is perfect. my house is usually a mess on weekdays and I only have time to clean on weekends. You are doing such a great job! n i think you should do a messy house post haha

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    1. Aw thanks Yvonne. I know what you mean. Your place always looks gorgeous and so does your little little! lol, yes i totally need to start working on the messy house post:p!

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  4. You are right. It's not about how perfect or imperfect someone's world is, it's about making it inspiring and charming enough so others can be inspired, and learn and teach others.

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    1. Totally agree Momina. Thanks for stopping by!

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  7. I wrote you this long message and I just don't know where it went :/ I guess I'll just start over.

    So I have been following your blog for the last couple of days and i must say that I totally love it. I love the way you share all the good things about your life. Your photographs and art work are also amazing. I actually created a blog today after being inspired by you. I can totally relate to this post of yours. I too am a mom of a 15 month old boy and life can get really crazy sometimes, but the joy of raising your child is just out of this world and it just feels good to be able to share the little joys of life with everyone hoping that it will bring a smile on someone's face. Anyway, my blog is www.mommywithapen.blogspot.com. Do check it out :)

    Oh and I just want to thank you for something you did long time ago. I remember coming to your place as a kid and you guys had these dolls made out of paper, as well as their clothes and accessories. I really liked them so you gave them to me :) I think I still have them somewhere in my parent's house in Pakistan.

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    1. Thank you for the sweet words Maham. So glad i inspired you to start one too, please dont stop now. We all have stories that need to be written:) Will definitely be keeping an eye out for your writings. Aw most welcome, hehe, we used to love making those paper dolls. Good memories. Hey please tell me more, what place was this where you came to our house? Trying to remember you since knew quite a few Mahams over the years! So nice to hear from you. Xoxo

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